Put Yourself First
Alzheimer’s places incredible physical and emotional challenges on the caregiver, and it's important you don't forget about your own needs as you get swept up in being a caregiver.
Build a Support Network
Consider joining a support group to share experiences and insights. A group allows you to talk about the issues you face with people who are going through something similar, which will help lower your stress level and help you feel less isolated. The experiences of others may even provide you with new strategies to try.
If it’s difficult for you to attend a meeting, you could try an online discussion forum. Sharing the day-to-day challenges of caring for someone with Alzheimer’s will help prepare you for the difficult decisions ahead. Questions about finances or when to place your loved one in a long-term care facility are especially hard.
Building your support network will take some time. Understand that you will need help and learn to ask for it. Ask a friend or relative if they can look after your loved one while you go to a movie or out to dinner.
Most people are happy to help but may not know how they can assist you, so be specific in your requests. Having a friend take your loved one for a walk on Tuesday morning is much better than setting a vague plan for later in the week.
Be Kind to Yourself
If you attend a yoga class each week or belong to a book club, keep it up. Or start something new that interests you. Having regular time away will contribute to your overall health and wellbeing. As your loved one’s Alzheimer’s progresses you may want to consider enrolling them in an adult day program or scheduling respite care so that you both can have a break.
Developing your coping skills involves being kind to yourself. Alzheimer’s disease is difficult to live with for both the patient and the caregiver. Grief, depression and anger are common feelings. Cultivating your emotional awareness will assist you in meeting the challenges of caring for someone with Alzheimer’s. Knowing what upsets you will help you identify ways to cope with that upset.
Think Outside the Box
Try to think creatively about handling situations with Alzheimer’s sufferers. Will offering two choices of clothing over the entire contents of the closet help with getting your loved one dressed in the morning? What other alternatives might you try? Understand that you’ll need to learn to change and adapt as your loved one will lose the ability to do so over time.
Bear in mind that your loved one is likely to be worried, withdrawn, and even afraid of you on occasion due to their inability to remember faces and facts from their daily life. Formulate a plan for how you will deal with these situations so they don't catch you off guard.
It can be painful to watch someone you love change and forget about their best memories and moments. With help and support, you can learn to cope and effectively care for a loved one who suffers from Alzheimer's disease.